This may seem like a naive question but as a sub I appreciate the discipline and punishment I get but I always want to know, since they don't always show it, if the Daddies are getting a strong sense of sexual enjoyment and pleasure from the punishment and pain they deliver?
-T
That's a multi-layered question, T, so let me start by making sure everyone understands what I mean when I say "punishment" or "discipline."
Punishment is something that is administered to correct behavior that has displeased the Dom. It is a reaction to something that has already happened and it is not meant to be enjoyed. The purpose is to give the sub a harsh reminder that such behavior is unacceptable and to act as a deterrent to it happening again.
Discipline is something that is administered to condition a sub's behavior so that it will please the Dom. It need not be a reaction to a past event, but can be used to mold the sub into behaving a certain way. Discipline can often be something that is enjoyable by both Dom and sub.
Does the Dom derive pleasure from disciplining a sub? Generally, yes. Even if the activity used for discipline might not be something that turns the Dom on, the end result is a sub who behaves himself in the way that the Dom wants him to, and that makes for a very happy Dom indeed!
Punishment, on the other hand, is not supposed to be pleasurable. If it is, then it's not very effective and you could end up with a sub who constantly misbehaves in order to get the "punishment" he craves. This sort of game playing is not allowed in my house, under any circumstances. I know D/s couples who play that game to the great enjoyment of them both, but they also understand that it's a game - and that if real punishment is needed, things are handled very differently.
As for the Dom not showing his pleasure... well, if the sub is being punished for errant behavior, then the Dom is not pleased! If it's discipline, and the Dom isn't showing anything, then it could be that he is in a mindset or a mental role-play that has him in a stoic or gruff character and this role is heightening his excitement. It could also be that the Dom just isn't the sort who shows much emotion during a session. Every Dom is different and the reactions of one Dom can't be used as a measuring stick for the reactions of another.
If there is any doubt in your mind at the end of a session about the Dom's reactions to what you both did, you might try a humble stance and a soft-spoken, "Have I pleased you today, Sir?" The answer will probably tell you even more that you read here.
Daddy
